Marry Clinical Psychologists

  Missing People Who Didn’t Treat You Well (Why your heart still goes back) Have you ever found yourself missing someone… even though you know they didn’t treat you well? It can feel confusing and even a little embarrassing. Your mind remembers the hurt, the disappointment, and the moments you wished things were different. But your heart? It still feels the pull. If this is you, please know: there is nothing wrong with you. Missing someone who hurt you is a deeply human experience. It doesn’t mean you want the pain back. It doesn’t mean you’ve forgotten what happened. And it definitely doesn’t mean you should return to them. Often, what you’re missing isn’t the person — it’s the connection, the familiarity, or the version of them you hoped they would become. Let’s gently unpack why this happens.  Why You Miss Someone Who Hurt You 1. Your Brain Is Attached to the Familiar Our brains are wired to prefer what feels familiar — even when it isn’t healthy. If someone was ...

  Emotional Invalidation Trauma (When Your Feelings Were Dismissed Growing Up) "When your feelings were dismissed growing up, you may learn to dismiss yourself". Emotional invalidation trauma happens when your feelings were repeatedly ignored, mocked, or dismissed — especially during childhood. Instead of being understood, you may have heard things like: “You’re too sensitive.” “Stop overreacting.” “It’s not a big deal.” “Why are you crying over this?” Over time, your nervous system learned one painful lesson: “My feelings are wrong.” And that belief can quietly follow you into adulthood.   Why This Hurts So Deeply Children don’t just need food and shelter — they need emotional safety. When caregivers constantly minimize emotions, the child often: stops trusting their feelings learns to hide emotions feels ashamed for being “too much” This is not just hurt feelings — it can become emotional invalidation trauma .  Signs You May Have Em...

  Decision Fatigue: When Your Brain Gets Tired of Choosing Meaning  Decision fatigue happens when your brain becomes mentally exhausted after making too many decisions. At first, small choices feel easy. But as the day goes on… Even simple things like: “What should I eat?” “Should I reply now?” “Which task first?” …start to feel strangely heavy. It’s not laziness. It’s mental overload.  How Decision Fatigue Feels in Real Life Many people don’t realize they’re experiencing decision fatigue. You might notice: You stare at simple choices for too long You keep delaying small decisions You feel mentally drained by evening You start avoiding choices altogether You pick the easiest option just to be done   The brain quietly says: “I’m tired of thinking.”  Why Decision Fatigue Happens (Psychology Behind It) Your brain has limited mental energy each day. Every decision — big or small — uses part of that energy.  What h...

  Anhedonia: When Nothing Feels Enjoyable Anymore (Loss of Ability to Feel Pleasure                   "Represents emotional numbness despite normal surroundings". Have you ever noticed… Things that once made you happy — music, friends, hobbies — suddenly feel… flat? You’re not exactly sad. But you’re not happy either. If this feels familiar, you might be experiencing anhedonia . And no — you are not lazy or ungrateful. Your brain may be emotionally exhausted.  What Is Anhedonia? Anhedonia is the reduced or complete loss of the ability to feel pleasure. In simple words:   Things you used to enjoy don’t feel enjoyable anymore. It is a symptom , not a standalone disorder in most cases. It commonly appears in: depression burnout trauma-related conditions chronic stress Common Signs of Anhedonia People experiencing anhedonia often notice: hobbies feel boring music doesn’t hit the same socializing feels draining motivation drops emo...